The world is briefly divided into two types of people…. successful and the unsuccessful. Let’s work on reworking on this definition a bit. The world is thus split into two spectrum of people, those who think they are successful and those who think they are not. For a man is who he thinketh he is. What one man believes in eventually becomes his destiny.
“There are many aspects to success; material wealth is only one component. …But success also includes good health, energy and enthusiasm for life, fulfilling relationships, creative freedom, emotional and psychological stability, a sense of well-being, and peace of mind.”
― Deepak Chopra
Indeed happiness is a major sub-set of success. The richest man in the world could be miserable deep down inside while a person living in the slums could sleep on his ragged mattress happily. Happy people are happy because they make themselves happy.
The question is: how do they manage to do that? Here are the mantras to stay happy.
Cultivate the attitude of gratitude:
There’s a popular adage that says “The happiest people don’t have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.” Louise Hay, author of the ‘Attitude of Gratitude’ talks a lot about the importance of being thankful about your blessings and developing a deeper sense of contentment and the magical effects it has on your body, mind and soul. Count your blessings instead of cribbing for what you don’t have. Life is often like the little fable we read in school…. I complained that I had no shoes until I saw man with no feet. Don’t shed tears over what you with you had, thank the Lord you are blessed with what you have.
Don’t hold grudges.
Happy people understand that it’s better to forgive and forget than to let their negative feelings crowd out their positive feelings. Holding a grudge has a lot of detrimental effects on your wellbeing, including increased depression, anxiety, and stress. Why let anyone who has wronged you have power over you? If you let go of all your grudges, you’ll gain a clear conscience and enough energy to enjoy the good things in life.
Treat everyone with kindness.
Did you know that it has been scientifically proven that being kind makes you happier? Every time you perform a selfless act, your brain produces serotonin, a hormone that eases tension and lifts your spirits. Not only that, but treating people with love, dignity, and respect also allows you to build stronger relationships.
See problems as challenges.
The word “problem” is never part of a happy person’s vocabulary. A problem is viewed as a drawback, a struggle, or an unstable situation while a challenge is viewed as something positive like an opportunity, a task, or a dare. Whenever you face an obstacle, try looking at it as a challenge.
Dream big.
People who get into the habit of dreaming big are more likely to accomplish their goals than those who don’t. If you dare to dream big, your mind will put itself in a focused and positive state.
Say eternally happy.